There are certain words or phrases that apply so well to your life that they truly stay in your heart and mind. During formal recruitment, the phrase “you can come how you are and we will love you” truly hit home for me. Now let me backtrack and explain why . . .
My name is Mary Tallett and I recently finished my freshman year at Saint Louis University. For me, high school was hard. I struggled with friends, with being accepted, and with even accepting myself. So naturally, going to college, it was my goal to find people who would accept me for who I am. For me, it was “on-brand” (as my friend Lo would say) or it was always a part of who I was to want to be in a sorority. So naturally, I went through formal recruitment. I met so so many wonderful women and I had so many meaningful conversations. But the one conversation that hit home for me, was a conversation I had with my current grand big, Cassidy. As I told her about my high school experience, she immediately explained that in ADPi, they do not want me to fit a mold of what an Alpha Delta Pi member should be like, but rather we mold Alpha Delta Pi in a diverse and varying landscape by being who we are. Meaning, I can come as I am, and I will not only be accepted but loved for my uniqueness. That is when I knew Alpha Delta Pi was for me.
In life, no one wants to be who they are not and for me, having to show up every day in high school to be the “Mary” everyone knew was absolutely exhausting. Humans are not designed to be the same every single day. Some days we are sad, some days we are overjoyed, some days we are exhausted, and some days we are light-hearted. Humans fluctuate and it is not fair to expect someone to show up the same way every day. Hearing that Alpha Delta Pi did not expect this from me, meant the world and I knew (not to be super cheesy) that I found my home.
This feeling of acceptance for the diverse person I am held true throughout the year. I experienced some amazing days, where all I would do was laugh and mess around with one of my best friends and sorority sister, Delanie. Other days, I was so engulfed in anxiety that it was hard to be that light-hearted person I was the day before and that was okay, my sisters (and best friends) would still get dinner with me and love me. They understand and accept my diverse personality and feelings, and I will accept theirs. Because at the end of the day, we are all complex and unique humans. ADPi showcases this fact and because of that, our sisterhood is full of so many beautiful, authentic, true-to-themselves, and kind women; I feel so lucky to be a part of it.
♥ Mary Tallett, sophomore